No. 69 Getting your life together, fear-based motivation + a softer New Year
If you feel that quiet pressure to “get your life together” now that the holidays are over — but can’t quite define what that even means — this one’s for you.
We talk about why the New Year so often turns into a fear-based self-improvement project, why motivating yourself through criticism and urgency rarely works, and how “having it all together” is often just another name for high-functioning disconnection.
In this episode, I explore:
Why you’re not broken and don’t need a total reinvention
The difference between growth and anxiety-driven self-fixing
Why willpower, shame, and fear aren’t sustainable motivators
Integration vs. hyper-functioning
Choosing themes over rigid goals
Building self-trust slowly instead of forcing dramatic change
How self-compassion can actually move you forward
This is a softer, steadier approach to the New Year — one that prioritizes sustainability, self-trust, and the long game over urgency and burnout.
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Your prescription for living well, dose for this week: Fear, shame, and self-criticism might push us for a moment, but they don’t create lasting change and usually lead to burnout or disconnection. Growth comes from self-compassion, integration + sustainable change over time. “Having it all together” is a myth; being human is messy. Start where you are, build slowly, and trust the long game. Happy 2026! 🎉
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