If you feel that quiet pressure to “get your life together” now that the holidays are over — but can’t quite define what that even means — this one’s for you.

We talk about why the New Year so often turns into a fear-based self-improvement project, why motivating yourself through criticism and urgency rarely works, and how “having it all together” is often just another name for high-functioning disconnection.

In this episode, I explore:

• Why you’re not broken and don’t need a total reinvention

• The difference between growth and anxiety-driven self-fixing

• Why willpower, shame, and fear aren’t sustainable motivators

• Integration vs. hyper-functioning

• Choosing themes over rigid goals

• Building self-trust slowly instead of forcing dramatic change

• How self-compassion can actually move you forward

This is a softer, steadier approach to the New Year — one that prioritizes sustainability, self-trust, and the long game over urgency and burnout.

Listen: Getting your life together, fear-based motivation + a softer New Year

On this episode of The Evergreen Rx, we’re diving deep into Chiron — the “wounded healer” of your birth chart — and how this single placement can radically shift your healing journey, your relationships, and the way you show up for yourself.

If you’ve never heard of Chiron before, don’t worry. Remy breaks it down from the very beginning. This is one you don’t want to skip because Chiron is big — it reveals the repeating emotional patterns you can’t seem to outgrow, the places you chronically feel “not enough,” and the wounds that quietly shape your identity, attachment style, and relational habits.

We explore:

• What Chiron actually is and what astrologers mean by a “Chiron wound”

• How to understand your Chiron sign, house, and the themes that follow you through life

• How these wounds show up and block you in your healing journey

• How Chiron influences attachment wounds, romantic patterns, and the types of people or experiences you’re drawn to

• What it looks like to turn your deepest pain into wisdom, purpose, and compassion

• • Whether Chiron is something we “heal” in this lifetime — or something we learn to walk with differently

Listen: Healing your core wound, your patterns, & Chiron with Remy Ramirez

Ever pull away right when things start to feel too close? When your partner gets vulnerable, talks about the future, or expresses love, does your body go straight into shutdown-mode — like closeness is something you need to escape from?

You’re not alone. For people who lean avoidant, intimacy can feel threatening even when it’s everything you say you want. In this episode, we talk about:

• Why affection or emotional closeness can trigger fight-or-flight

• Deactivating strategies (like changing the subject) and why they bring temporary relief

• How avoidance forms as protection against shame, engulfment, or rejection

• The loneliness and exhaustion that can come with hyper-independence

• How to tell the difference between healthy space and running away from intimacy

• What staying “1% more” looks like in real time

• Building inner safety so vulnerability feels survivable, not suffocating

• Learning to tolerate being seen, wanted, and cared for

Closeness doesn’t have to feel like a trap — and you don’t have to choose between connection and your autonomy. This week, we explore how avoidant attachment shows up, how to gently expand your capacity for intimacy, and why you’re not actually “better off alone.”

Listen: Avoidant attachment, shutting down + letting people in

When you lean anxious in attachment, even tiny shifts in someone’s tone, timing, or energy can feel like an alarm bell. One “I’m just tired” text can send you spiraling into worst-case scenarios, rereading conversations for clues, and bracing for rejection that isn’t actually happening. It’s exhausting — and it can feel impossible to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why anxious attachment interprets neutral cues as rejection

• How hyperactivation leads to spiraling, overanalysis, and searching for reassurance

• The difference between external regulation and true emotional self-support

• Why even honest reassurance from a partner often doesn’t “stick”

• How to respond when your system floods — even if something is actually wrong

• Rebuilding internal stability so your sense of safety isn’t dependent on someone else’s mood

• Naming your needs directly instead of protesting, clinging, or guessing

• How self-worth, history, and past relational wounds shape your reactions today

You don’t need to abandon your needs to stop spiraling — you just need to learn how to hold them yourself. And from that place, closeness becomes something you can trust, not chase.

Listen: Anxious attachment, reassurance seeking + self-regulation skills

Ever catch yourself getting annoyed at the people you love — not because they’re doing anything bad, but because you’ve quietly been carrying the weight of the friendship? When you’re always the one checking in, holding space, or remembering the details, irritation can slowly harden into resentment.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why resentment builds when we don’t address small hurts in real-time

• How unspoken needs lead to emotional scorekeeping

• The anxiety of speaking up when past friendships didn’t respond well

• Why avoidance always creates more distance than an honest conversation

• How to bring things up early, before the irritation turns into a narrative

• The surprising intimacy that can come from naming a hurt without blaming

• What to do when someone can’t meet you where you are

Friendship doesn’t require perfection, but closeness can’t survive silence. Naming your needs isn’t dramatic — it’s how relationships grow.

Listen: Low-key resentment, unmet needs + repairing friendship

Ever get something you really wanted — a new job, recognition, closure — only to feel a confusing mix of pride, sadness, or even guilt right after? You’re not broken or ungrateful — you’re just human. As we grow, our capacity to hold conflicting emotions expands, and that can make even “good” things feel complicated.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The psychology behind mixed emotions (and why your brain does this)

• The “upper limit problem” — how we unconsciously sabotage our own joy

• How guilt, anxiety, and shame can mask excitement or pride

• Cultural pressure to feel one way — and what happens when you don’t

• The power of naming multiple emotions at once

• Why moments of joy often stir grief for our past selves

Being human is rarely clean-cut. Sometimes joy brings grief, pride brings sadness, and love brings fear — but that doesn’t make any of it wrong. It just means you’re feeling the full spectrum of being alive.

Listen: Mixed emotions, self-sabotage + guilt

You crave deep connection — but the moment someone actually meets you there, something inside you panics. You pull away, get distant, or convince yourself you’re not ready. You’re not alone — this push-and-pull between wanting love and fearing it is a common human experience.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why intimacy can feel both magnetic and terrifying

• A quick primer on attachment styles (and what they reveal about your patterns)

• How past pain and early attachment wounds influence current relationships

• Using current relationships as exposure therapy for closeness

• Naming your fear (“I want to be close, and I’m scared”) to build safety and space

• Learning to stay present in yourself while being present with others

This episode is all about bridging that gap between what you want and what you can tolerate — so closeness starts to feel less like danger, and more like home.


Listen: Understanding your attachment style + fear of intimacy

Ever feel like you’ve been doing so much work on yourself — therapy, journaling, inner child healing — that you’ve forgotten what it feels like to just live? When healing becomes your whole identity, even the tools meant to help you can start to feel heavy. Sometimes growth fatigue hits hard, and you just want life to feel simple again.

In this episode, we talk about:

• What healing burnout looks like (and why it’s totally normal)

• How self-work can become an addiction to “fixing” yourself

• Expanding your definition of healing to include joy, rest, and play

• Taking a break without “backsliding” or losing progress

• Why you’re not broken — and how to stop treating yourself like a project

• Letting life itself be part of your healing

You don’t have to earn your peace by working on yourself. Sometimes the most radical growth comes from simply being.

Listen: Healing fatigue, pausing therapy + letting yourself live

Ever catch yourself agonizing over even the tiniest decisions — what to eat, what to text, what to wear — like each one carries impossible weight? You’re not alone. When self-trust starts to slip, even small choices can feel paralyzing, and the constant second-guessing can leave you anxious, drained, and disconnected from your own instincts.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why indecision is often a disguise for anxiety and control

• How small choices become emotional stand-ins for bigger stressors

• Rebuilding trust in yourself through tiny, low-stakes experiments

• Learning to tolerate uncertainty (and stop chasing the “right” choice)

• Why you can handle the consequences — even if things don’t go perfectly

• Grounding yourself before making a choice so you can actually hear your gut

It’s not really about dinner plans or sending texts — it’s about remembering that you can handle whatever happens next.


Listen: Indecision, overthinking + learning to trust your gut

In this grab bag episode, we dive into all the tricky ways we compare ourselves and how to navigate those feelings without losing your mind.

What we cover:

• How to stop comparing your pace in life to friends who seem “ahead”

• Dealing with comparisons to your past self and the inner critic that fuels it

• Feeling jealous of people you genuinely love and root for

• Pinterest, TikTok, and the illusion of “perfect” lives

• Figuring out if you actually want something for yourself or just because everyone else does

• Practicing mindfulness, self-compassion, and perspective shifts to break the comparison cycle

This episode is a reminder that what’s meant for you won’t miss you, and that abundance exists even if your feed tries to convince you otherwise.


Listen: Comparison, jealousy + falling behind

Beginnings are SO fun. The spark, the rush, the fantasy of who you might become once you start something new. But then comes the middle — the part where the adrenaline fades and you’re left with effort, repetition, and maybe even doubt. How do you know if you’re genuinely outgrowing something, or just uncomfortable with the middle part of the journey?

We explore:

Why the rush of starting something new can feel addictive

Spotting the difference between genuine disinterest and temporary discomfort

How perfectionism and dopamine hits influence what we stick with

Recognizing when your values or lifestyle aren’t aligned with a new pursuit

Learning to slow down and appreciate the messy, imperfect in-between


Listen: Chasing newness, losing interest + knowing when to quit

So many spiritual practices—tarot, ritual, candle magic—lean on visuals. But what happens when we reimagine them through all of our senses? This week I’m joined by Erica Christie, a legally blind author, artist, and spiritualist who blends accessibility advocacy with witchy, mystical art and teachings.

We talk about:

• What led Erica to spirituality and occult practices

• How to engage all of your senses in ritual and connection

• What we miss when we rely only on the “aesthetic” side of spirituality

• Adapting practice to release perfectionism

• Unexpected tools and sensory experiences that deepen spiritual connection

• Erica’s favorite ways to drop into deep ritual and divine connection

Listen: Accessibility in spiritually, following feelings + reimagining ritual with Erica Christie

Money isn’t just numbers on a screen—it’s emotional. It carries stories from our families, our culture, and our sense of self-worth. And when we’re caught between guilt for spending, anxiety about saving, or avoidance of even looking at our bank account, it can feel overwhelming.

In this episode, I dive into how to start building a healthier, less shame-filled relationship with money. We’ll talk about:

• Why money is emotional (and how generational patterns play a role)

• The tension between wanting to save/spend wisely and avoiding the numbers altogether

• How shame thrives in secrecy—and why naming it helps dissolve it

• Reframing money as a flow: a currency meant to move in and out

• Balancing money as a resource for joy, stability, nourishment, and safety

• Practical first steps to get a clear picture of your ins and outs

• Tools and strategies for creating a money system that supports your values

Listen: Money worries, family patterns + taking control

How do you know when you’re burnt out—and what do you actually do about it?

In this episode, I’m breaking down how to spot the signs of burnout, what short-term recovery looks like, and how to build long-term prevention strategies. I’m pulling from the book Burnout (a forever favorite of mine), but also sharing some of my own experiences with “micro-burnout”—that week-to-week fatigue that sneaks up on us even with things we love.

We’ll get into:

• The sneaky signs of burnout you might be writing off as “just being negative”

• Short-term recovery: completing the stress cycle & giving your body the signal it’s safe

• How crying, laughing, and even yawning can reset your system

• Why suppressed anger especially drains women of energy & purpose

• Long-term prevention: rest, boundaries, purpose, and community

Because burnout isn’t just about work—it’s about how we carry stress, and how we learn to let it go.

Listen: Burnout, your stress cycle + learning how to regulate

In this season finale, I’m having a chat with you about something that finally clicked for me after a feverish journaling session—I realized I’ve been chasing the curated version of life, not the actual experience of living it. You know the feeling: you dream of a slow Saturday where you do your favorite things—but when it finally arrives, your mind races, your back aches, and you just want to go home and watch TV. Why does it feel so good to plan a life that’s intentional and beautiful, but so hard to actually live it?

This episode is about the tension between being the one who does versus the one who has done. It's about presence, dissatisfaction, Pinterest boards, and the truth that becoming the person you want to be isn’t just about aesthetics—it’s a practice. One you live in real time, not in the highlight reel. Let’s talk about what it means to create a life that feels as good as it looks.

Listen: Curating your life, chasing a feeling + living in the moment

In this episode, we talk about the quiet grief that comes with unmet expectations, the pressure to follow a certain timeline, and what it means to say goodbye to an imagined future. We explore:

• The emotional weight of "what could’ve been"

• Quarter-life crisis and the tension between meaning vs. stability

• Why letting go of old dreams can open up new paths

• The difference between grieving your own dreams and inherited ones

• How to find peace in the present—even when it looks different than you hoped

This is a gentle reminder that you aren’t off track & your life is unfolding as it’s meant to!

Listen: Letting go of who you thought you'd be, grieving the what-ifs + moving forward

Harvard-trained clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Sabrina Romanoff joins the pod to help us untangle all the messy thoughts that come up when you really want love, but it’s not feeling easy. From dating apps that suck to overthinking every emotion, this conversation is a warm and wise look at how to build healthier romantic patterns—and trust yourself along the way.

We talk about:

• Why it’s hard to trust someone even when they haven’t done anything wrong

• Whether the butterflies mean their the one… or not

• How to find people who actually want a serious relationship

• Expressing your feelings without feeling like you're "too much"

• Understanding the line between compromise and self-abandonment

This one is grounding, affirming, and informative in all the best ways.

Listen: Trust issues, dating fatigue + picking the right partner with Dr. Sabrina Romanoff

Ever feel like no one really gets you? Like you’re constantly translating yourself just to be received correctly? In this Dear Evergreen episode, we explore what it means to feel misunderstood or “too much”—and how to move through it and remain open hearted.

We talk about:

• Why feeling “too much” is often a sign of being in the wrong room

• Exposure therapy for authenticity: surviving rejection & staying open

• How to tune into emotional intimacy—without over-explaining

• Building an internal compass that keeps you grounded in your truth

• Noticing what's going right in your connections

• Finding peace in the parts of you that may never be fully understood

If you’ve ever felt like you’re  just a little too complex or tender to be held by the people around you—this one’s for you.

Listen: Fearing rejection, over-explaining, & managing perceptions

What happens when your life starts to feel a little too small? Maybe you’re craving more fun, connection, or adventure—but trying new things can feel awkward, intimidating, or hard to know where to start.

In this episode, I’m joined by Eleanor from @atxwitheleanor, a creator in Austin who’s made it her mission to find the best ways to explore the city, build community, and say yes to new experiences.

We get into:

• How to overcome the fear of looking awkward or out of place

• Simple, low-stakes ways to explore your city and meet new people

• Tips for making new friends

• How Eleanor finds and curates cool experiences

you're itching for something new or just feeling stuck in the same old cycle, this episode might be the gentle nudge you need.

Listen: Trying new things & putting yourself out there with Eleanor Lee

What do you do when your self-care just isn’t cutting it? In this episode, we explore how to cope when your usual strategies feel flat, frustrating, or totally ineffective—and why that’s more common than you might think. Whether you’re burned out, stuck in a funk, or just over your usual routine, this one’s for you.

We cover:

• Why your tools might not be working right now

• Creative (and unconventional) ways to care for yourself

• The difference between coping and avoiding

• What to do when your body holds onto stress after your mind has let it go

• Self-soothing strategies for when your comfort person isn’t available

• Why coping doesn’t make you weak—it makes you human

Let this episode be a gentle check-in, not a judgment. You’re allowed to change, adapt, and find new ways to care for yourself as you grow.

Listen: Coping skills, emotional regulation + completing the stress cycle