Ever notice that a friendship that once felt electric can start to feel… quieter? Less exciting? Less intense? That doesn’t automatically mean something’s wrong — but it can bring up a lot of questions about whether you’re drifting apart or just settling into a new phase of connection.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why friendships can lose their “spark” over time (and why that’s normal)

• How the honeymoon phase shows up in friendships, not just romantic relationships

• The difference between infatuation with a person vs. building real connection

• How attachment patterns can shape who we feel drawn to

• What to look for once the initial intensity fades

• When it’s worth staying curious vs. when it might be okay to let go

• Why depth often comes after the spark, not during it

• Why you don’t have to figure it out alone (yes, you can talk to them)

Not every friendship is meant to stay intense forever — but some are meant to deepen once the initial excitement fades.

Listen: Losing the spark, drifting apart + evolving friendships

In this episode, we’re talking about moral grandstanding — the tendency to use moral talk, social media posts, or public outrage to boost our own reputation rather than genuinely engage with a cause.

From pile-ons and one-upping to exaggerated emotional displays, the internet has created an environment where being seen as “morally right” can become its own form of status. But what does this do to our relationships, our mental health, and our ability to actually address real injustice?

This conversation explores the psychology behind moral grandstanding and how it shows up in current events like the Blake Lively and Justin Baldoni case. 

We’ll get into:

• What moral grandstanding actually is

• The different types: piling on, ramping up, trumping up, and more

• Holier-than-thou attitudes on social media

• Why outrage can feel productive in times of powerlessness

• How constant moral signaling leads to exhaustion and disconnection

• Why we should condemn the behavior, not the person

A messy, nuanced conversation about morality, the internet, and how to stay grounded in public discourse.

Listen: Moral grandstanding, virtue signaling + outrage culture

I use AI to help me with every podcast episode I make. Topic generation, writing descriptions, making titles — AI has been a big part of my podcast process for a long time. I was an early adopter, I’m not planning to quit, and no, this is not an episode telling you to cut AI out of your life. But lately… I’ve been feeling disillusioned.

In this episode, I sit in the gray area and talk through my evolving relationship with AI — what it offers, what it takes, and why something about it has started to feel unsettling. We’ll cover:

• Using AI as a therapist, expert, artist, and even a friend

• How confidently wrong AI can be — and why that matters

• The way AI can undermine critical thinking and creative struggle

• Outsourcing communication, ideas, and emotional labor

• Feeling skeptical of everything online and questioning what’s real

• How constant AI-generated content can flatten nuance and push us into black-and-white thinking

• Why you don’t have to be fully for or fully against it

• Staying open-minded, human, and intentional in a rapidly changing digital world

There’s no hot take or final answer here — just a real-time processing of how to stay thoughtful and grounded while engaging with a tool that’s not going anywhere.

Listen: AI is not your friend or your enemy…it’s a computer

In this episode, we talk about the reality of wanting meaningful connection and wanting spaciousness, solitude, and time that isn’t accounted for. Especially in adulthood. Especially when your life is full. Especially when your job already requires you to be “on” all day.

We explore:

• Why there is no perfect recipe for friendship

• Misperceptions of time and why one hour actually counts

• Choosing activities with clear start and end points

• Knowing who energizes you vs. who drains you

• What your guilt might actually be trying to tell you

• Why clear, honest communication matters more than frequency

• A practical way to keep friendships warm without burning yourself out

If you love your friends but also love being alone…
If a text asking to hang out next week fills you with dread and longing…
If you’re trying to reconcile who you used to be with who you are now…

You’re in the right place. This episode is about releasing unrealistic expectations, honoring your current capacity, and finding ways to stay connected without abandoning yourself.

Listen: Social burnout, friendship guilt + honest communication

In this episode, we unpack the psychology of texting and how digital communication can quietly reinforce anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment patterns — especially when there are no facial cues, tone, or real-time context to ground us.

We talk about:

• Why texting feels so emotionally charged

• How anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment show up in texting behaviors

• Long silences, delayed replies, over-texting, under-texting, and “reading into it”

• How constant contact can blur boundaries and imitate intimacy that isn’t actually there

• Why always being “on” robs us of self-soothing and distress tolerance skills

• When texting supports secure attachment — and when it undermines it

• Why calling and in-person connection matter more than we think

I also share how my own relationship to texting has changed — from using it as a way to create closeness and reassurance, to letting connection develop without forcing constant contact.

If you’ve ever spiraled over a text, avoided replying altogether, or felt like your phone had way too much power over your mood — this episode is for you.

Listen: The psychology of texting, attachment + digital boundaries

At the start of every new year, there’s pressure to lock back in — rebuild routines, double down on habits, and become a more consistent version of yourself. But what happens when the version of you that feels best… doesn’t want to be structured the way she used to be?

In this Dear Evergreen episode, I explore the tension between flow and structure, especially after a season of deep flexibility and self-listening. I share my own quiet identity shift — from being someone who thrived on rigid routines to someone who started to resent them — and what it’s been like to loosen the reins without losing myself.

We talk about:

• When routines support your wellbeing vs. when they start to feel restrictive

• Why consistency isn’t always the same as sustainability

• The fear of “falling off” or burning out when you stop pushing yourself

• Honoring natural rhythms, cycles, and changing needs

• Letting equilibrium emerge instead of forcing it

This episode is for anyone who doesn’t need more discipline, but more permission — to change, to fluctuate, and to trust that different seasons call for different medicine.

Listen: Letting go of routines, sustainable habits + not forcing consistency

“I’ve been in therapy for months and nothing’s fixed… am I doing this wrong, or is my therapist slacking?”

This question comes up all the time — online, in my personal life, and in my therapy office — and honestly, it makes me a little nervous to answer. Not because it’s wrong to ask, but because it touches on something tender, complicated, and often misunderstood about how therapy actually works.

In this episode, I’m leaning into the therapist side of me to talk openly about expectations, progress, and the therapeutic relationship itself — and why healing isn’t a service you purchase so much as a relationship you participate in.

We talk about:

• Why therapy is often framed as “I’m paying you, so fix me”

• How our results-oriented culture shapes unrealistic expectations of healing

• Why the relationship — not techniques or advice — is the biggest predictor of change

• Therapy as a surrogate attachment relationship (and what that stirs up)

• How idealizing or dehumanizing your therapist can stall progress

• What mutual respect looks like in a relationship with a power imbalance

• Why seeing your therapist as a real person can actually deepen safety and growth

• What this doesn’t mean (you’re not doing therapy wrong, and this isn’t therapist blame)

Even if you’ve never been in therapy, this episode applies to any relationship where growth happens slowly, imperfectly, and through connection.

Listen: Why isn’t therapy working?, unrealistic expectations + relational healing

If you feel that quiet pressure to “get your life together” now that the holidays are over — but can’t quite define what that even means — this one’s for you.

We talk about why the New Year so often turns into a fear-based self-improvement project, why motivating yourself through criticism and urgency rarely works, and how “having it all together” is often just another name for high-functioning disconnection.

In this episode, I explore:

• Why you’re not broken and don’t need a total reinvention

• The difference between growth and anxiety-driven self-fixing

• Why willpower, shame, and fear aren’t sustainable motivators

• Integration vs. hyper-functioning

• Choosing themes over rigid goals

• Building self-trust slowly instead of forcing dramatic change

• How self-compassion can actually move you forward

This is a softer, steadier approach to the New Year — one that prioritizes sustainability, self-trust, and the long game over urgency and burnout.

Listen: Getting your life together, fear-based motivation + a softer New Year

On this episode of The Evergreen Rx, we’re diving deep into Chiron — the “wounded healer” of your birth chart — and how this single placement can radically shift your healing journey, your relationships, and the way you show up for yourself.

If you’ve never heard of Chiron before, don’t worry. Remy breaks it down from the very beginning. This is one you don’t want to skip because Chiron is big — it reveals the repeating emotional patterns you can’t seem to outgrow, the places you chronically feel “not enough,” and the wounds that quietly shape your identity, attachment style, and relational habits.

We explore:

• What Chiron actually is and what astrologers mean by a “Chiron wound”

• How to understand your Chiron sign, house, and the themes that follow you through life

• How these wounds show up and block you in your healing journey

• How Chiron influences attachment wounds, romantic patterns, and the types of people or experiences you’re drawn to

• What it looks like to turn your deepest pain into wisdom, purpose, and compassion

• • Whether Chiron is something we “heal” in this lifetime — or something we learn to walk with differently

Listen: Healing your core wound, your patterns, & Chiron with Remy Ramirez

Ever pull away right when things start to feel too close? When your partner gets vulnerable, talks about the future, or expresses love, does your body go straight into shutdown-mode — like closeness is something you need to escape from?

You’re not alone. For people who lean avoidant, intimacy can feel threatening even when it’s everything you say you want. In this episode, we talk about:

• Why affection or emotional closeness can trigger fight-or-flight

• Deactivating strategies (like changing the subject) and why they bring temporary relief

• How avoidance forms as protection against shame, engulfment, or rejection

• The loneliness and exhaustion that can come with hyper-independence

• How to tell the difference between healthy space and running away from intimacy

• What staying “1% more” looks like in real time

• Building inner safety so vulnerability feels survivable, not suffocating

• Learning to tolerate being seen, wanted, and cared for

Closeness doesn’t have to feel like a trap — and you don’t have to choose between connection and your autonomy. This week, we explore how avoidant attachment shows up, how to gently expand your capacity for intimacy, and why you’re not actually “better off alone.”

Listen: Avoidant attachment, shutting down + letting people in

When you lean anxious in attachment, even tiny shifts in someone’s tone, timing, or energy can feel like an alarm bell. One “I’m just tired” text can send you spiraling into worst-case scenarios, rereading conversations for clues, and bracing for rejection that isn’t actually happening. It’s exhausting — and it can feel impossible to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why anxious attachment interprets neutral cues as rejection

• How hyperactivation leads to spiraling, overanalysis, and searching for reassurance

• The difference between external regulation and true emotional self-support

• Why even honest reassurance from a partner often doesn’t “stick”

• How to respond when your system floods — even if something is actually wrong

• Rebuilding internal stability so your sense of safety isn’t dependent on someone else’s mood

• Naming your needs directly instead of protesting, clinging, or guessing

• How self-worth, history, and past relational wounds shape your reactions today

You don’t need to abandon your needs to stop spiraling — you just need to learn how to hold them yourself. And from that place, closeness becomes something you can trust, not chase.

Listen: Anxious attachment, reassurance seeking + self-regulation skills

Ever catch yourself getting annoyed at the people you love — not because they’re doing anything bad, but because you’ve quietly been carrying the weight of the friendship? When you’re always the one checking in, holding space, or remembering the details, irritation can slowly harden into resentment.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why resentment builds when we don’t address small hurts in real-time

• How unspoken needs lead to emotional scorekeeping

• The anxiety of speaking up when past friendships didn’t respond well

• Why avoidance always creates more distance than an honest conversation

• How to bring things up early, before the irritation turns into a narrative

• The surprising intimacy that can come from naming a hurt without blaming

• What to do when someone can’t meet you where you are

Friendship doesn’t require perfection, but closeness can’t survive silence. Naming your needs isn’t dramatic — it’s how relationships grow.

Listen: Low-key resentment, unmet needs + repairing friendship

Ever get something you really wanted — a new job, recognition, closure — only to feel a confusing mix of pride, sadness, or even guilt right after? You’re not broken or ungrateful — you’re just human. As we grow, our capacity to hold conflicting emotions expands, and that can make even “good” things feel complicated.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The psychology behind mixed emotions (and why your brain does this)

• The “upper limit problem” — how we unconsciously sabotage our own joy

• How guilt, anxiety, and shame can mask excitement or pride

• Cultural pressure to feel one way — and what happens when you don’t

• The power of naming multiple emotions at once

• Why moments of joy often stir grief for our past selves

Being human is rarely clean-cut. Sometimes joy brings grief, pride brings sadness, and love brings fear — but that doesn’t make any of it wrong. It just means you’re feeling the full spectrum of being alive.

Listen: Mixed emotions, self-sabotage + guilt

You crave deep connection — but the moment someone actually meets you there, something inside you panics. You pull away, get distant, or convince yourself you’re not ready. You’re not alone — this push-and-pull between wanting love and fearing it is a common human experience.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why intimacy can feel both magnetic and terrifying

• A quick primer on attachment styles (and what they reveal about your patterns)

• How past pain and early attachment wounds influence current relationships

• Using current relationships as exposure therapy for closeness

• Naming your fear (“I want to be close, and I’m scared”) to build safety and space

• Learning to stay present in yourself while being present with others

This episode is all about bridging that gap between what you want and what you can tolerate — so closeness starts to feel less like danger, and more like home.


Listen: Understanding your attachment style + fear of intimacy

Ever feel like you’ve been doing so much work on yourself — therapy, journaling, inner child healing — that you’ve forgotten what it feels like to just live? When healing becomes your whole identity, even the tools meant to help you can start to feel heavy. Sometimes growth fatigue hits hard, and you just want life to feel simple again.

In this episode, we talk about:

• What healing burnout looks like (and why it’s totally normal)

• How self-work can become an addiction to “fixing” yourself

• Expanding your definition of healing to include joy, rest, and play

• Taking a break without “backsliding” or losing progress

• Why you’re not broken — and how to stop treating yourself like a project

• Letting life itself be part of your healing

You don’t have to earn your peace by working on yourself. Sometimes the most radical growth comes from simply being.

Listen: Healing fatigue, pausing therapy + letting yourself live

Ever catch yourself agonizing over even the tiniest decisions — what to eat, what to text, what to wear — like each one carries impossible weight? You’re not alone. When self-trust starts to slip, even small choices can feel paralyzing, and the constant second-guessing can leave you anxious, drained, and disconnected from your own instincts.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why indecision is often a disguise for anxiety and control

• How small choices become emotional stand-ins for bigger stressors

• Rebuilding trust in yourself through tiny, low-stakes experiments

• Learning to tolerate uncertainty (and stop chasing the “right” choice)

• Why you can handle the consequences — even if things don’t go perfectly

• Grounding yourself before making a choice so you can actually hear your gut

It’s not really about dinner plans or sending texts — it’s about remembering that you can handle whatever happens next.


Listen: Indecision, overthinking + learning to trust your gut

In this grab bag episode, we dive into all the tricky ways we compare ourselves and how to navigate those feelings without losing your mind.

What we cover:

• How to stop comparing your pace in life to friends who seem “ahead”

• Dealing with comparisons to your past self and the inner critic that fuels it

• Feeling jealous of people you genuinely love and root for

• Pinterest, TikTok, and the illusion of “perfect” lives

• Figuring out if you actually want something for yourself or just because everyone else does

• Practicing mindfulness, self-compassion, and perspective shifts to break the comparison cycle

This episode is a reminder that what’s meant for you won’t miss you, and that abundance exists even if your feed tries to convince you otherwise.


Listen: Comparison, jealousy + falling behind

Beginnings are SO fun. The spark, the rush, the fantasy of who you might become once you start something new. But then comes the middle — the part where the adrenaline fades and you’re left with effort, repetition, and maybe even doubt. How do you know if you’re genuinely outgrowing something, or just uncomfortable with the middle part of the journey?

We explore:

Why the rush of starting something new can feel addictive

Spotting the difference between genuine disinterest and temporary discomfort

How perfectionism and dopamine hits influence what we stick with

Recognizing when your values or lifestyle aren’t aligned with a new pursuit

Learning to slow down and appreciate the messy, imperfect in-between


Listen: Chasing newness, losing interest + knowing when to quit

So many spiritual practices—tarot, ritual, candle magic—lean on visuals. But what happens when we reimagine them through all of our senses? This week I’m joined by Erica Christie, a legally blind author, artist, and spiritualist who blends accessibility advocacy with witchy, mystical art and teachings.

We talk about:

• What led Erica to spirituality and occult practices

• How to engage all of your senses in ritual and connection

• What we miss when we rely only on the “aesthetic” side of spirituality

• Adapting practice to release perfectionism

• Unexpected tools and sensory experiences that deepen spiritual connection

• Erica’s favorite ways to drop into deep ritual and divine connection

Listen: Accessibility in spiritually, following feelings + reimagining ritual with Erica Christie

Money isn’t just numbers on a screen—it’s emotional. It carries stories from our families, our culture, and our sense of self-worth. And when we’re caught between guilt for spending, anxiety about saving, or avoidance of even looking at our bank account, it can feel overwhelming.

In this episode, I dive into how to start building a healthier, less shame-filled relationship with money. We’ll talk about:

• Why money is emotional (and how generational patterns play a role)

• The tension between wanting to save/spend wisely and avoiding the numbers altogether

• How shame thrives in secrecy—and why naming it helps dissolve it

• Reframing money as a flow: a currency meant to move in and out

• Balancing money as a resource for joy, stability, nourishment, and safety

• Practical first steps to get a clear picture of your ins and outs

• Tools and strategies for creating a money system that supports your values

Listen: Money worries, family patterns + taking control